PATHWAY TO
ABORTION
BY SAM D DON
Abortion
is a word and never a spirit. It is only a by-product of an illicit casual sex.
It is not possible to have an abortion when there is no sex. Therefore, illicit
sex is the pathway to abortion.
Many
teenage boys/girls are saying NO to pre-marital sex to protect their future,
you too CAN. Likewise some married men/women saying NO to extra-marital sex to
save themselves of the avoidable of which abortion is one of them.
Just
by adopting this philosophy and the fear of God, “others may but I can’t have
sex until I am married.” You are reducing the number of possible abortions
worldwide.
As
a teenager you are pretty, good looking and very appealing/attractive to
somebody but that is not the reason for you to indulge into illicit casual sex.
Sex maybe free but its consequences are costly for which abortion is life
terminated and life threatening.
You
may move close to a special person you are interested in and your body may not
be able to resist the temptation of having sex. However, before you take the
next step there are things you have to know.
Do
you know that over one million teenagers have an unplanned pregnancy yearly?
Old men (sugar daddies) leave their own children at home but have sexual
intercourse with other people’s children by enticing them with money and
luxuries. Teenage girls, who get pregnant, have problems during pregnancy and
child birth. Some young people that get pregnant drop out of school and face
many other challenges in the society.
Many of them try abortion and die in the
process or are unable to have babies forever. Children delivered outside
marriage are more likely to have serious health and psychological problems. Sexually
transmitted infections like gonorrhoea, syphilis and HIV are common among those
who have premarital sex and some of them are difficult to manage. These
diseases not only cause pain, trauma and infertility, they could also cause the
death of the mother, the child or both.
The
temptation to have sex might be too high but before you decide, consider the
following;
v Yourself
(Health)
v Your
future
v The
responsibilities that accompanies pregnancy
v How
you will feel if you end up with an unplanned pregnancy, HIV/AIDS
v Your
parent – is it honourable or shameful to them
v God – does illicit sex glorify God.
THE WAY OUT OF ABORTION
1. The fear of God:
Proverbs 10:9 says ‘the fear of the lord is the beginning of wisdom’. The fear
of God is the consciousness of God’s presence that He is watching and recording
your doings. With the fear of the lord, abortion can be escaped. It makes you
want to please God and keep to his words.
You
may ask yourself these questions:
a) Is
having sex in line with my personal, religious and moral values? Will I not
destroy my future plans by having sex now?
b) Will
I be able to face the consequences of unplanned pregnancy?
c) Would
God feel pleased if I have sex now?
d) If
the relationship breaks up after having sex, will I be able to bear the shame?
e) Would
I have my self-respect if I have sex now?
f) Is
my partner ready to be father or a mother now?
g) If
I have a baby now, will I be able to take good care of the child?
h) Is
abortion a solution or a problem?
2. Personal Values and Principles:
Personal values and principles are good to help you out of abortion. The lack
of personal values or principles can trigger abortion uncontrollably. Values
like “No sex till after I am married”, “I don’t believe sex is the
climax/validates true love.”
3. Saying No to Illicit Sex:
Pick up the courage to say NO to your Boyfriend/girlfriend. You should use without
reservation some disciplinary words to wade in the temptation. ‘If you really
love me and you sincerely care for me, you will wait until we are married’; ‘I
love you a lot but I am not ready for sex’; ‘honestly I do not believe in
premarital sex’; ‘It is not right and it is against my moral and religious
values’; ‘I do not want both of us to hurt each other’s feelings’; ‘We should
both wait until we get married’; ‘We both know the consequences of having sex
now, we are not ready to bear the consequences yet, so let’s wait’.
4. Knowing That Sex is not Love:
Good relationship does not develop overnight. Sex does not make a relationship
work rather it destroys it.
Beware
of the following sweet talks. They are deceitful and destroying talks:
i.
If you love me you will have sex with
me.
ii.
You need to prove your love for me by
having sex with me.
iii.
My friend told me you are just
pretending.
iv.
Our entire friends are doing it, why not
us?
v.
I have spent a lot on you, what is my
gain?
vi.
For me to marry you, you will have sex with
me first.
vii.
I need to be rewarded with sex.
To save your life,
define your relationship and know your boundaries.
5.
Get
rid of filthy materials: Keep away from materials such as;
pornography, sex movies or films that defile the mind and builds the foundation
for sexual immorality within you.
6.
Indecent
dressing: You must not dress indecently. You must not involve
yourself in things like kissing, pecking, smooching e.t.c. They all fall into
the same category of sexual sin and ultimately lead to sexual immorality.
Always have your clothes on. Avoid body contact, true love waits.
7.
Keep
your mind occupied with things of God: Reading your bible,
attending church activities and Sunday services diligently and living a
prayerful life. An idle mind they say is the devil’s workshop. As soon as the
mind conceives a thing and holds it strongly, you will need God’s grace to be
delivered from such thing.
8. Avoid spending time alone behind
closed doors: As long as you wear this mortal body,
temptations are inevitable but you have to adopt certain measures to overcome
them. Staying behind closed doors, alone with the person you love triggers
activities of the body chemistry. This is natural and you may not be able
prevent or control it. So avoid being alone in an enclosed place, always stay
in the midst of other people.
9. Choose your friends right: Don’t
choose friends that are likely to lead you astray. Choose decent friends who
are interested in the things of God and are ultimately God fearing. Proverbs
27:17 ‘as iron sharpeneth iron, so a man sharpeneth the countenance off his
friends’. 2corinthans 6:14 ‘be yea not equally yoked together with unbelievers,
for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness and what communion
hath light with darkness?’
10.
Counselling:
You need to talk to somebody who has something worth the while to counsel you
about sex and abortion. E.g. you can go to a professional counselling centre. The
bible teaches that a wise builder builds on a rock and not on sand. That
implies that you seek genuine counsel; asking God for help and guidance on
every mysteries of life. That includes sex and abortion, which is abominable
before God.
Finally,
talk about your feelings with your partner. If he/she does not agree, then look
for someone whose way of thinking is the same with your own.
Remember:
You
don’t need to have sex to prove that you love someone. You do not need to have
sex to pay someone back for giving you a gift. Saying thank you is enough.
Saying I love you and no to sex until you are ready should be enough. These
will earn you respect and honour.
Talking
over problems, sharing feelings and giving respect for each other ensure a
stronger and lasting relationship. Be wise and learn to say no to sex until you
are married. Join the crusade against the crime of abortion.
